I just used Facebooks “add everyone on your aim buddy list” feature, thinking the one I had on file with them was my private screen name with 60 or so friends and family.
Instead it added everyone on my public aim name and I had to keep responding to the dozens of people who were asking me what was up with the invite. That aim name had everyone who had IMed me in the last 3 years in its ‘recent buddies’ tab, so all of those people got friend invites. It got to the point where I had to just paste a reply explaining the situation and saying sorry. What was worse though, were all the people who accepted the friend request and were genuinely touched that I asked to be their friend.
Facebook’s invitation didn’t tell them that I pressed a button and mass added a ton of people, so each one just naturally assumed that I had them on my mind and searched for them to hand pick them out. Oof.
So what do I do then? Do I embarrass them by responding to their “im so glad you found me!” messages with “actually, I didn’t”? Or do I lie-through-withholding-information and just zip up about it? It all feels dirty and wrong no matter what way you slice it. I don’t use Facebook for the exclusivity and I’m more than happy to have random people I don’t know in my friends list there – but what about them? Would they feel the same way if they knew I didn’t zero in on them?
The total number of people who had Facebook and accepted the friend request was three hundred and sixty four.
Some of them have already begun to delete me since the posting of this blog.
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