As covered previously here in richardland: when an insecure overweight person see’s a peer that is way too comfortable being thin, there’s a natural inclination for that person to give a “hey now” admonishment (scolding) to try to dial the thin persons confidence back to a level that makes the contrast between their two states of mind and states of health less embarrassing to them.
This same phendonomon, i’m noticing, also occurs with young parents – well – moms (this dynamic has not been observed among men yet) in where a young female who is insecure about the responsibilities of motherhood has a short fuse when seeing her peers unencumbered.
Why do you think Uncle Phil was so disapproving of Will’s funky fresh attitude? cuz the dude – for all his wealth and success – was a man of the law, anchored by strict lifestyle standards at home and in the workplace. So naturally, Will’s casual attitude and lack of any such responsibility is a major source of annoyance. I would describe it as a building anxiety that bubbles when you have a lot of adult responsibilities on your plate and you see people chillin out max and relaxin all cool.
When you’re a mom, you see things further through a prism of crying helpless mushballs who are completely dependent on you. It’s that filter of viewing things, for instance, that made Wheelers baby momma go from thinking he was a cool bf when they were gettin jiggy wit it, to seeing him more as a deadbeat trashy skeezy loser, post-birthing of their son… Catchin my drift here?
Kay, so now that we have that ground work of understanding to start from, lets play a game with the responses to my Facebook status this afternoon:
I posted that i’m “munching some bread and butter with chocolate milk on the patio, sitting all the way back in the chair so I can swing my feet. Sometimes im so fkking adorable i wanna eat myself”.
It’s not a post to be gold plated and admired by paying crowds – it’s just a goofy capture of a moment with a silly air of enjoyment.
At the time of this posting, it got 6* endorsements and 1 Debbie Downer seeking to shame me for the goof…
Guess which one is the 26 year old married mother of 2.
Even though, as detailed above, I know where this type of response comes from – I can’t help but try to decipher how this particular negativity manifested. Like… maybe it’s immature or shallow if you really wanna find a connection between such silliness and a negative review – but why “creepy”? lol. is it the patio? the bread and/or its butter? is the casual swinging of a persons legs in a moment of relaxation the creep-factor? help my social skills! I can’t improve if I don’t have details on what i’m doing “wrong”…
These almost write their own writers prompts as to what math was used to get to these descriptions, but its nakedly transparent in where the general sentiment is coming from and what it’s trying to do (“keep those legs stationary you freak!”).
I fully support shaming people for publicly engaging in unhealthy, destructive, rude/inconsiderate, or morally flawed behavior – but when you try and shame someone for enjoying a snack in a casual manner – you’re just revealing your own insecurities about your life decisions, bruh.
And now, I’m gonna go swig back a Pedialyte while I finish watching a cartoon I saved to watch with dessert in between fielding AIM messages from friends, none of whom are over 20 years old. and the Pedialyte is the only thing about that that’s a joke (it’s actually Juicy Juice).
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*Update: Not that the merit of the acceptableness of my actions is up to a vote here, but a 7th and 8th endorsement of this status was commented shortly afterward. Just sayin.
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