Was a girl who deleted me off the app in 2015 after I delayed an invitation to go to a theme park with her.
It was probably Disneyland but I dont remember for sure so it could have been 6 Flags and I don’t want to lie just to make that portion of the story definitive.
The reason it stood out to me was that she was totally right to do it. Making a move for a first date is a step. If the other person isn’t excited to make that step with you and just kindov leaving you there as a maybe-option then they’re not worth your time. I didn’t consciously know that that was what I was doing until I took what I think was my second rain check on going to the theme park and didn’t provide an alternative activity or day and in response she unmatched me. I thought for a split second “jeez lady, wtf” and before that flash of time completed I was back to the sober reality of admiring the move, thinking “dang lady. Good for you. that was absolutely the right move”.
She didn’t have a meltdown. She didn’t give me some crappy speech to try and shame me for my actions. She just gave me my chance and when I didn’t bite said “oh well, his loss” and moved right tf on. Bravo, sis. All reading this should do the same. The trope of “he’s just not that into you” works on both genders and is an understanding that needs to be taught because our hopes for success in someone we’re interested in gives a confirmation bias to make excuses for their lack of returned interest and our ability to win them over. But don’t do it, folks. Don’t waste your time.
Be like that one chick and unmatch people who don’t jump at the chance to pursue you.
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