What Could Have Been

Knowledge of what could have been is a really annoying foresight to have and one of the biggest standard bearers for proving the phrase “ignorance is bliss”.

Being aware of your surroundings to a certain degree comes with the punishment of knowing to the best of logical calculations ability, the outcomes of certain life events. You dummies that just take each day like a fresh new stand-alone venture life in a different world than us planners-ahead. When you screw up today, we see what it cost you tomorrow.

At the time of this writing I don’t have any children but damn, I am really not looking forward to this aspect of child rearing where you know so much future detail based on their actions they’re just learning and exploring only to watch them decide they know better than you, make stupid choices, and then suffer for it. Idk how to avoid this. Because to be a good caregiver you have to highlight what is best about the child while making them improve what is worst about them. But the categories conflict to an ignorant child brain who only knows “caregiver” and “conflict”. When you spank or yell or punish a child, they’re not thinking about the reasons for it or making any logical assessment about the future – they just see conflict and hate you until that hate blows over or when you start in your caretaker role with them again.

Kids are stupid. I’m gonna have to fix this nonsense with some careful figuring-out of this issue before having them. Cuz my brain is already too full and there is no room for more avenues of darkness of what could have been so much better if people weren’t selfish idiots.

Making bad choices makes you miss out on a lot with me. and as someone who is actively living a life to be a joy and benefit to all those around him, it is a tragic loss to miss out on what I have to offer. The crappy part is that I’m doomed to be the only one who truly knows it while the missers out never really examined what was possible in the first place so they never really have to suffer the visions of what could have been and I just have to carry that knowledge and watch them miss out in ignorance, robbing even any ability to get joy from an “i told you so”.

This awfulness is a lot like this scene from 500 Days of Summer, except instead of Expectations vs Reality, for me it’s a contestant play of “Could have/Should have” vs “Is”.

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Make better choices. Choose the stuff that makes life more fun for all those around you, not just yourself at a given moment.

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