When chicks try to skinny-shame other chicks

Females see other females as competition. And that feeling goes so deep that even when it is impossible that one would ever gain something at the loss of the other in any way for any reason, the less confidant of the species is still in constant panic mode that members of their gender will take what is theirs. It’s a law of averages that the members with the least self esteem deputize themselves into enforcing. Like a Union that tells highly productive workers to dial it back a little so as not to force the other Union members to meet their level, these catty chicks feel threatened when another chick improves themselves. When the improvement comes through a boost in the way they present their hair, makeup, flattering outfits or medical procedure, it’s a little easier to dismiss by the Average-Police, but when the improvement comes through physical fitness that is paying off…then there is a problem. Because the person doing the improvement is shaming the Average’s who aren’t. And that must not be allowed.

When you’re a miserable sluff, it’s always easier to try to knock other people down to your level than it is to try to build yourself up to theirs. Thus, these people feel that if they can get into your head enough to make you at very least stop flaunting your improvements (though at best, they’d have you cease trying for them all together) then they are somehow safer in their emotional swamp of negativity.

Case in point: Ashley posted the following picture and one of her friends did that thing where girls try to make another girl feel bad about being too thin (but never too fat) and the hilarity ensued as shown below. She mentions a previous interaction with me but idk when or over what it was or who the Heather person or I would look for it and post that thread too :p.

Here’s the full thread from her comment onward:

Heather
if 582 is most of your day’s calories, you need to be eating more, woman!

Ashley
oh, no… I thought I had said “almost”in my caption, but I may not have. 800 was actually my day’s calories. Maybe 900.

Heather
I saw the almost, and 800 or 900 is definitely not enough. I’ve never seen a “healthy diet” plan that recommended less than 1200. Just worrisome, that’s all. Hope all is well.

Ashley
I didn’t say it was my daily intake. I said it was my day’s intake as in that day, specifically. Just as I am sure most people don’t monitor every calorie or worry when they over eat, I don’t really worry if I under-eat by a bit every once in a while. But thank you so much for caring! Really sweet of you to take an interest!

Richard
I love it when chicks cloak criticism to other chicks in unreasonable “concern” for their health. like someone is on the verge of an anorexic collapse because they’re in shape and work out and dont overload their caloric intake every day. Get to a doctor Ashley!!! You look too good and are making me feel bad about my own eating and fat burning habits!!

Heather
Eat it Richard. I’ve known Ashley forever and I never mentioned anything about the doctor. It is possible to have genuine concern, I’ve had my own issues with overdoing it in the past. I’m glad you “love it”.

Richard
lol. Now she’s telling ME to eat. I think Heather works for Food Incorporated or something.

Richard
No one said genuine concern is impossible. I only noted that i’m amused when concern is illogically applied and the obvious reasons for it. If Ashley or I or anyone else posted a status saying “OMG I ate waay more calories more than I was supposed to today, every day this week,etc” or” I’m getting so fat, and I have no intention of working out etc.” I’m sure somebody would comment saying “oh me too!” or “it’s okay, you shouldn’t count calories anyway” or some other form of finding a way to laugh about it because it validates their own fat assery. But one tiny tick in the opposite direction – with no larger context or any sign whatsoever of there being reason for actual alarm and its “OMG! You’re hurting yourself!”. giant eyeroll…

Heather
wow that was clever. Food Incorporated! I was going to say Suck it but I held back a bit. I seem to remember a previous exchange between the two of us and I know we dont and would never get along. so I’lll let it go and stop crowding Ashley’s comment wall. Love ya Ashley- I’m out.

Richard
Today I learned that the way a person shows “genuine concern” is by making a critical public facebook comment and then peacing out immediately when someone notes that the criticism had no basis. I mean – maybe i’m wrong and Heather has been private messaging you for weeks or more about the state of your health and voicing her worry over all the non-signs of you not eating enough. Or maybe the situation is exactly as I described and thats why she’s so quick to drop it after telling me to suck and/or eat “it” (whatever “it” is…eek).

Heather
No Richard, I already know you’re MR. AWESOME and all (bc I recall being sent a link the last time we got into it and laughing my ass off), and I’d prefer not to bait your douchebaggery. But I know how you love to have the last word, so at this point I’m just gaining amusement. Go ahead and say something critical, regardless of the fact that you don’t know me at all. Pat yourself on the back for your profound awesomeness, to the delight of your LEGIONS of adoring “fans”.

Richard