Tumultuously Terrifying Tindering…Dudes

Tumultuous isn’t really the right word cuz it means rioting or unrest in some kind of uproarious fashion but I needed another T-word for the title. The overwhelming response of this marketing experiment has been super positive, but the few horror stories are bizarre enough to get all the headline attention.

For the past few weeks I’ve been using Tinder to recruit gay talent for an LGBQ (transgender project parallel but separate from this gay-centric organization) project I’m working with some people on that includes media roles I’m casting, helpers I’m involving, and general contacts I’m just swiping cuz they seem like nice people and I may be able to connect them with an entity, position, or other form of help with this new undertaking.

My profile makes it clear that I’m heterosexual and just swiping people who seem cool and I don’t message anyone first so that when they message me, the likelihood that they have read my intentions and are still interested in conversing is much much higher and like I said it’s been super pleasant and I’ve already started several dudes on several jobs that are humming along awesomely — but then there’s the other side of the coin…

While a small minority of the matches, the pool of pervs has opened my eyes to a whole level of this world I thought I either knew or could easily imagine. Boy was that wrong.

(my constant reaction)

I don’t know how much I want to give away so far, so I’m more so collecting those freaky-deak stories for a possible compilation post later, but mostly before I even get to that I wanted to highlight the positive instead of the disgusting jerks. The fact of the matter is that most of the messages have been from ambitious and pleasant people whom I’ve been happy to be able to help connect to paths that will undeniably improve their lives. The fact that I was able to do it by grabbing their attention from how stunningly attractive I am only to disappoint them with the fact that I’m not sexually or romantically attracted to their gender only to then swing around again and gift them awesome opportunities has been far more of a uniquely rewarding joy than I had previously thought when I suspected I would get much more gross messages and aggressive freakshows unwilling to accept the premise of my intentions than I actually have.

Basically, I’m just writing this to let you know what a friggin hero I am and to encourage you to also do things for people whom have no probable way of benefiting you directly at all whatsoever. It’s good to do. It’s good for you and good for the world.

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